These often repeated words are intended to soothe the powerless, bullied and abused. But they provide cold comfort at best. Names hurt. If they didn't, we wouldn't need this saying. It is painful to see my hometown of Staunton, Virginia, embroiled in conflict over changing the name of Robert E. Lee High School. In May, the citizens of Staunton elected new school board members who publicly favored the name change. This is what democracy looks like. Yet, as they begin to grappl